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Different things you can and can't do with ashes

You can bury ashes in your local cemetery or in a natural burial ground. You can scatter them. You can divide them up among members of the family. You can get the crematorium to scatter them. You can do hundreds of things with them.


Many people only start to think creatively after they’ve brought the ashes home – sometimes long after. 

During this time they may sit on the mantelpiece, the wardrobe, the boot of the car, dry, warm and safe. Of course, they’re more than just ashes and they deserve a fitting destination. This is a very personal thing, so does it matter in the least what other people think? 

Rolling Stone Keith Richard snorted some of his father’s ashes. Patsy Kensit slept beside her mother’s for years. A distinguished pathologist, Derek Roskell, wants his ashes be scattered over Tony Blair. Denise Moon took the ashes of her late partner to court to prove that she was not evading council tax. Gene Roddenberry, creator of Star Trek, was shot into space. We make sense of things in our own way. 

That way may not seem logical to other people, but logic may well have a negligible part to play in the matter of farewelling our dead or, indeed, of making sense of anything.


A favourite way with ashes is to scatter them at a spot which the dead person loved. But there are drawbacks you ought to consider.

First, if this is a popular beauty spot you may feel inhibited by the proximity of other people. You won’t have a good experience if you wait anxiously till no one’s looking, then do it surreptitiously in a cloak-and-dagger operation. So many people do this at Jane Austen’s cottage that fly-tipped remains have become come an unsightly nuisance.


Second, if the beauty spot you favour is a mountain top or an upland location, the phosphate in the ashes will upset the ecology. It’s a poor way to commemorate someone, to turn them into a bio-hazard. This is why football grounds will not let you scatter ashes on the pitch. It’d upset the fans.

Questions and answers

    • I’m not very good at drawing but I want a special design on the ashes casket, would you be able to help?
    • Yes, we have a team of in-house designers that you can speak to directly to tell them what you want. They’ll email the design through to you  for your approval and then we can make any adjustments that you want before we make the ashes casket for you.
    • My husband was a real football fan, I’d love to have his favourite club’s logo and colours on the ashes casket as a special tribute. Would this be possible?
    • Sports clubs logo’s/badges are protected so we need to ask copyright permission, but we find they are generally very sympathetic. Getting permission from the clubs will sometimes delay the time it takes for us to make the ashes casket for you because we have to wait for the club to approve the design and give written permission, if we can’t get permission for any reason, then we will do our best to find an alternative but suitable image. 
    • Can I use the wooden memorial marker instead of a headstone?
    • No, the wooden memorial markers are just a temporary grave marker whilst you wait for a headstone to be made and fitted to the grave. The grave markers are wood and will rot if they are left in the open air.
    • How do I put the ashes of a loved one in the cremation casket?
    • The lids are permanently fixed onto the casket so you need to remove the six screws from the bottom of the casket, you can then place the ashes into the casket( We recommend you put the ashes into a bag or pouch first). Once the ashes are in the casket you just need to screw the six screws back. The ashes will then always be secure in the casket.

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